@Phil It’s the habit of mind. You can’t always fix the bad things you know are happening, you should be judicious and not make things worse from moral vanity, but at the same time you should never concede to resignation or denial, you should always be thinking about whether there isn’t some way you could make a contribution that wouldn’t make things worse or arrogate prerogatives that are not yours. but in practice it’s very difficult to keep that up in a serious way. instead you numb.